Why marriages are not made in heaven!!!

I used to hear that marriages are made in heaven, from my grand -parents and parents. Life partners understand the imperfections of each other and fulfil the gaps in their partner’s personalities. Marriage is not only about accepting the goods of their spouse’s personalities and lives but also to accept the negatives in their lives, that is a true marriage.

But with growing speed in our lives, we forgot this funda of marriage, and we have come up with a new philosophy, and that is if you are up to my mark, you are good for me otherwise mark your way. This is actually happening in our society today, we are so busy to be ready to accept any odds in our partner’s personalities, and we are finding things to be much easier to move forward than to be with not so perfect partner. The both partners today are working, and nobody is dependent, this independence is appreciable but has brought a drastic change in social life of people.

Married life demands time, a couple needs to give at least five years of their life to each other. They need to understand the situations, the nature, and family of their spouse. It requires patience. Nothing could be achieved in a day. Some of friends complain that their husbands are mumma’s boy, and prefer to listen to her than me. But that is obvious, a girl also listen to her mom first before her husband or mother in law, at least in the initial years of marriage. Things are difficult for girls after marriage, but they are not so easy for boys too. They also had to undergo very depressing situations. Girls can share things with their moms or can even complain about their in laws to their husbands but poor guys, can’t even complain about their wife and mother, to either. They are left with only one option to listen both.

In this busy life, couples with little patience and understanding could be the best of friends. It’s been observed in recent studies that the rate of marriages happening is declining and the rate of divorces are increasing, and most of them are within five years of marriage. We are in an era of ready to cook and eat, but that could not be possible with marriage. It’s a whole new world; where one has to struggle have his or her space booked, then only things would be tastier.

Things become hell when separations occur after having a child. It may not be so tough for the separating couple, but its actually painful for the poor child. Given a choice between mom and pa, no child can be comfortable to select one. Little patience with some ignorance, things could have been better than being so worst. We make marriages a hell, by losing temper, and a superiority complex add value to it.  Life would be beautiful with your spouse if you willingly add quality time in your basket. Happy married life.