“A long time back there was Sufi saint, who was once being asked by a follower that “Maa, I have everything but still am hot happy. Please tell me how to find happiness.”

Then Maa said, ok you come tomorrow my son. The next day when this guy been to ashram and saw that the saint was very busy in searching something on the road. The guy asked her, “Maa, what are you searching for, may I help you. She said, it’s very I have to search for it. Again the guy asked, but what. She said a needle. The guy said, “Oh, but how to find a needle on this road, give me an idea where you lost it. She said, “O I dropped it inside the ashram. The guy asked surprisingly, then why are you searching it here. She said, because here is light.

The same thing happens with all of us, we are upset or empty from within but we keep filling gaps of outside, because we have light outside. To deal with any problem before looking here and there, see within you. Be Ok and comfortable with what your right now and then be ready to accept the change. Our redemption towards change creates confusion. For example after getting married, the biggest change happens in our life. We have to accept many relations, and redemption of not accepting people the way they are creates problem. To solve this try to accept the connections and people around you and not the suffering. What happens we are grown up with some negative beliefs and these beliefs stops us to accept the connections. But we very easily accept the suffering. It is a human nature to accept suffering and pains and which habituate us to lead our life in the same way with all those pains or enters in our shell which leads to inferiority or superiority complications. Now when this pain and suffering is accepted, that couldn’t be changed because what we accept is accepted, but will try to change the people around us, and which is not possible.

It may be happening with all of us that a continuous pinpointing irritates and hurt our self esteem. There is a sequence of this that You did something -  you being told something – you felt bad – got hurt – you entered in your shell – resulting, inferiority or superiority complex. Instead of allowing this sequence to flow we need to break this by either ignoring the words or by having a healthy discussion. If you believe in yourself nobody is capable of hurting you, because getting hurt is our own imagination which is our own creation. Remember to be ok and comfortable with what you are right now, and then be ready to accept the change.

Change is the law of nature. We grow when we accept change. It is not possible to change others but it is possible to explore ourselves. Nobody is perfect but perfection can be attained by accepting change